A very thoughtful article, thank you. My in-laws are all Chinese. For 17 years, I have observed that for them, food is love. Hugging, physical affection, compliments — don’t hear many of those. But oh, there is always food, in fact, always too much food, leftovers, steaming vats of soup, so much rice. Hang in there, and all three of you will expand your repertoire of communication.